Boys and Girls

It doesn't matter if you're fifteen or fifty.

Observation:

Boy meets girl.

Boy and girl hit it off.

Boy feels the same strong feelings for the girl that she feels for him. 

Girl melts into boys arms.

Boy gets scared and runs away to escape the cause of his feelings.

Girl wonders what the hell she did wrong to cause the boy not to like her anymore.

Analysis:

Boy possibly enjoys the hunt more than the capture.

Girl enjoys the capture more than the hunt.

Boy develops feelings for girl and quickly envisions his loss of freedom, 

a never-ending 'to do' list, and an end to further hunting.

Boy cannot communicate any of this with girl because 

he doesn't want to hurt her feelings. 

(Ironically, by being distant, he already has.) 

Boy is a scaredy-cat.

Complicating factors:

If boy states up front that he is not interested in a committed relationship, 

girl will likely run away first, ending the hunt before it starts.

If girl states up front that she is not interested in a committed relationship, 

she's lying to attract boy. 

This will eventually bite girl in the butt.

Suggestion to girls:

Be yourself. He's going to find out who you are eventually anyway.

Also, girls, don't make the hunter the prey once he has retreated. Keep your dignity.

Suggestion to boys:

Boys, decide what you want - the hunt or the capture - and communicate this with girls. 

Also, if the game changes either way, just tell her. 

She would rather you just tell her.

Final thought:

It seems boy and girl are opposing one another. 

When they realize they're on the same side, they both win.

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